If You Can't Be With The One You Love

I heard the song the other day by Stephen Stills entitled "If You Can't Be With The One You Love Then Love The One You're With." There is a lot to be said for the title to that song. When we get married we never think or plan for it to end in divorce. We meet a lot of people along the way that we love or at least we think we love and then that falls apart and we are searching for true love again. I have been in too many "relationships" to count now and what I am really trying to guard against is comparing the current one to any of the past relationships I have had. I do not want to bring my damaged goods to the table and make them pay for the sins of my past partners. I have had to pay for the sins of some of their past partners and it cost me (and them) any hope of a relationship. Many people believe that you run across more than one "true love" in your life but somehow those scenarios don't play out into a lifetime of love. I watched the movie Love Actually the other night and it had many different scenarios that played out. Some ended well and some didn't. I guess that describes realtionships in a nut shell. I think we all have a "lost love" that we have never reconnected with. That is why I believe in if you can't be with the one you love, then love the one you're with.