If A Tree Falls

If I tell someone a secret that is only known to me, then that makes it real. It gives that secret a life and sometimes it takes on a life of its own. If I do not tell anyone that secret, then the secret cannot exist because no one knows but me. I was told this is a complicated concept and they used the analogy about "if a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear it, does it make any noise?" If I don't make any noise, then no one can hear it. No one except for me.