Women can sday what they want but they enjoy booty calls as much as men do. Some woman I dated for about three months back at the beginning of the Spring/Summer decided that she wasn't interested in the direction that she thought I wanted the relationship to go. She thought I wanted an exclusive relationship and she decided to end this part of our relationship through a text message. She still wanted to have a sexual relationship, "friends with benefits", but did not want me to be upset if she "wanted to date someone else." To be honest, I was tremendously insulted by this and I told her that I did not think that was possible. I have been a friend with benefits before and it has never been that beneficial for me.
I have not actually spoken to her in over four months now. We have communicated via text and through Facebook but have not actually spoken. Recently she has brought up the possibility of starting to have a sexual relationship again, friends with benefits. I am more open to the idea now because I am going in with my eyes wide open but it is how she phrases things. It's never "lets get together this weekend" or "what are you doing tonight?" although she did ask me to go to a local fair a couple of months ago. It's always "some day" or "one day soon". It's like she wants to keep me on a string to be available if all of her other options fail. I need more consideration and more of a notice than that. I also believe she doesn't want me to get the impression that we are "getting back together" but at the same time, she wanted to know if I was "seeing" someone. If it is all about the sex, why bother asking that question? One possibility could be that she doesn't want to interfere with anything I have going on but I believe it is more of a case of her wanting to know if there has been anyone after her or am I still carrying a torch for her. Once again, I don't see how that should matter but I am not a puppet on a string and it has to be at my convenience as well as hers.
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