My friend came to me today in need of more relationship counseling, and playing around aside, he needed some serious advice this session. He told me that he was thinking or that he was going to break up with his fiance as soon as he moved back to his hometown. I am never going to advise anyone to break up but in my opinion, this relationship has been in trouble for several months, if not longer, and I could tell he was unhappy. I am glad that he felt like he could come to me some serious advice so I laid it out for him as best I could. I told him that life was too short to be miserable and if he felt uneasy about the situation now, it was not going to get any better after they got married.
I also told him it was not going to be easy but after it was all said and done, he would feel a big weight lifted off his shoulders. He is only 27 years old and I told him he probably needed to be a "free man" for a while. He needs to get himself together first and until he does, he may not want to involve anyone else. He needs to get out there and experience life some while he can, and do what he wants to do for a change, without having to worry about someone else.
I cannot approach anything without trying to throw a little bit of a sense of humor in. I told him that we he broke the news to her to make sure she did not have access to any weaponry. Anything she could shoot, throw, or kick would be headed in his direction. He may also want to practice some evasive maneuvers like running in a zig zag pattern, getting as low to the ground as possible to avoid incoming projectiles, and rolling away as a means of escape. Speaking as a man who received a thrown two liter drink to the 'nads, it is no fun and kind of painful. I have also watched my cassette tapes (back in the day) be jumped up and down on and reduced to musical dust, my baseball card collection be held for ransom, and various other atrocities committed against my manhood.
Oh my God, Dan. Atrocities committed against your MANHOOD???? You're a jackass--and I say that in Christian Love!
ReplyDeleteHowever, I strongly support your advice to your friend. There's nothing more horrifying than knowing you're entering a marriage that'd doomed. I don't know how soon his wedding is supposed to take place, but the sooner he ends it, he'll have a better chance at avoiding possible legal action. A woman scorned goes for money, like suing him for the cost of wedding (her parents traditionally pay for it) as well pain and suffering caused by the break up. So, a large, cold drink aimed for his 'nads may be the best outcome! You know your friend and, assumedly, a bit about his fiance so will have a better idea of her reaction. Perhaps scaring him with possible legal implications may throw him over the edge. But I've seen it happen quite a few times and the guy rarely wins.See? Its really much easier to be single! Regarding that, did you ever read the post about the subject we'd discussed last Friday? I did pose the question and it morphed into a major post (well, for me) with 55 hits so far. I don't know how many you can actually read, since many of them are labeled "private", but I'll be sure to get the reactions to you. Is the question still relevant?